Behaviors

Q: I know my mom needs help in her home but how do I get her to accept it?

A: It is not easy for most people to accept that they need help. From years of experience, we specialize in helping seniors recognize and accept the fact that they need help. Even in the cases where help was resisted, seniors grew to love the home-care workers and the high quality of life that is provided.

Q: Why is it that my mom seems like herself sometimes and other times she is not thinking clearly? Is she doing this just to get attention?

A: There can be several reasons for this; in most cases it is not to get attention. This could be caused by the way that drugs interact with each other, a lack of social stimulation, a medical condition or, possibly, dementia. One of the characteristics of dementia is that is varies overtime. There may be parts of the brain that are working very well and others that have some weaknesses. Some days will be better than others and there may or may not be an easy explanation for this.

Q: My doctor told me my mother has dementia. Does that mean she has Alzheimers disease?

A: Dementia, or forgetting, has different origins; Alzheimers is just one of them. It is important to understand the cause of the dementia so that the condition can be properly treated and managed.

Q: Is it normal that my once sweet, even-tempered father is so angry and aggressive?

A: Yes, unfortunately, this can happen. We often see this after someone has had a stroke.

Q: Why would my parent listen to you and not me?

A: Like it or not, most parents always see their children as their children. Many parents do not want to be dependent on their children. At Hearthside, we believe that it is best to not blur the boundaries of the parent-child relationship. What I tell my adult children is: they can pay an aide to be a care-taker but no one can pay another person to fill their shoes as a son or daughter.

Q: My mom is very independent and I think that having home care might take that away from her.

A: Independence is not the same as dignity. Independence without dignity is neglect. As a result of home care, the senior is able to maintain their dignity by continuing to live in their own home. Dignity is fostered as the senior eats better, lives in a cleaner environment and has companionship.

 
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